As I mentioned in my 20 Facts About Me post, I have been single for a long time now, so I don't have anyone to base this post on. Instead I will tell you what qualities, both physical and personality, I find most appealing when in a relationship.
Being slightly over 6ft tall myself I find it really hard dating someone a lot shorter than myself, I don't want to feel like a giant or a big oaf. It's not as easy as you would think, finding someone taller than me, all the tall guys or girls seem to go for shorter people. It's not fair, we should only be allowed to date people within a few inches of our own height so there's someone for everyone (kidding, kind of).
A good, genuine smile goes a long way with me. Teeth don't have to be perfect, mine aren't, but it's the feeling behind a smile that is hard to fake. Have you ever split a photo into two sections and looked at the eyes and mouth separately? It can be really creepy, you can see immediately who is smiling because a camera is pointed at them and who is genuine. Once you've done that with photo's it's hard not to in person, so when someone is fake smiling at you it can be really off-putting.
There is nothing like a good strong pair of shoulders and the kind of back that dents in at the middle, I'd take that over a pert bum any day! On a woman I find strong athletic shoulders really attractive, pair that with a sexy back and you're on to a winner. For men I like really broad shoulders and quite a well built back. I'm not saying for one second that I wouldn't find a slimmer man or a larger lady attractive also, but if I listed everything I find cute we'd be here all day!
You know that old saying 'the eyes are the windows to the soul'? Well I think it's true. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they look at you, if they are watching your lips move as you talk or looking into your eyes. Who wants to spend too much time with someone whose eyes are darting around the room while you're talking to them? Not me that's for sure.
Sense of humour
I know it's a total cliche but it's true, you can't beat someone that's able to make you laugh. Spending a lot of time with someone can get very dull after a while if you can't laugh with each other, or sometimes at each other.
This is one of the qualities I hold strong to, I can't image being with someone who hasn't got the capacity to feel for other people. Being sympathetic is great, but it's no comparison to being able to feel what the other person is feeling. Again, it falls back to an old saying:
Loyalty is extremely important to me, and something that I feel is taken advantage of way too easily. If I give someone my heart, whether it's a friend, a family member or a partner, I am completely loyal to them and expect the same in return.
Watching so many films growing up I always thought that romance was something that you'd get as you got older, how wrong I was! I haven't been in any relationships where the other person was romantic, and being the one trying to bring it all the time is tiresome, it should be a 50/50 effort.
I've lumped these three together because I see them all as very similar things, to me they go hand in hand. I don't care about the big things, flashy nights out or expensive gifts, I don't crave any of that. What I want is someone who'll surprise me by running me a bubble bath or bring me a drink if they're getting one for themselves. Basically just think about the other person, if you're thirsty then the chances are they are too. Hungry? Ditto. It's not rocket science but it's so easily over-looked, and these little things all add up.
I really don't think that I have a ridiculous list of things here, and I wouldn't expect to ever meet someone that ticks off every single one of these things, just a couple would be great. I'm really not too concerned with what someone looks like, my ideal partner would be a nice person who treated me as well as I treated them. That's not too much to ask, is it?
What do you think about the qualities I have listed here? I'd love for you to tell me your opinion in the comments.